weeKends are made of these

hAppieness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances .

mAsquerades of tHyself

“ Many cultures tell stories about people who pretend to be the other people pretending to be them, thus in effect masquerading as themselves, impersonating themselves, pretending to be precisely what they are … many people put on masks to discover who they are under the covert masks they usually wear, so that the overt mask reveals rather than conceals the truth; reveals self beneath the self. The realization that the mask may prove to be more alive than the face; the surface is deeper than the depth”.

W. Doniger; author of Bedtricks & translator of Sudir Kakar’s Kamasutra .

Beyond what these tell us is that we assume masquerades lie, and they often do, at least on the surface. But masquerades also tell a deeper truth particularly as we age and change. We often slip carelessly across permeable boundary between the un-self-conscious of our most peculiar mannerisms and the conscious attempt to give people who know us personally or publicly, the version of ourselves that they expect or maybe the version we expect ourselves to be.

In appreciation to a great friend who was there to pick up the pieces. when em's 'need to have it all together' in front everyone else breaks down in solitude. reckon em's car resale value is near zero after all the floods. em glad em can swim. or at least a friend who can throw in a life jacket. merci.